By Lanette Pottle
How many times have you thought to yourself or wondered…
“Am I good enough?”
Am I good enough to coach?
Am I good enough to start a business?
Am I good enough to actually achieve my goals?
Well if you were asking that question in my presence today, here is what I’d say to you:
“Are you freaking kidding me? Of course, you are good enough!”
Okay. That was the short — albeit 100% accurate — answer.
Here’s the longer, more thought-filled and equally accurate answer:
All too often we get caught in the trap of believing excellence is synonymous with perfection.
It becomes a guiding force, deeply embedded in our core – our belief system.
We proudly identify ourselves as perfectionists. Our experience becomes one of constantly striving, of always challenging ourselves to do better – be better.
And that alone is not a bad thing.
Where it becomes problematic is when this belief system causes us to become overly judgmental… of ourselves and others.
We procrastinate and become paralyzed from sharing our gifts with the world because we don’t feel it’s ever quite good enough; there is always something that can be revised or enhanced.
Think about it.
Have you ever read a book or watched a video or attended an event where you left feeling like you could have done it better?
You are quick to point out flaws. You find yourself feeling resentment or jealousy over or disbelief over the fact that they are getting positive attention for something that doesn’t live up to your standards of perfection.
You don’t understand why they are being rewarded for a ‘subpar’ product or performance.
I’ll be the first to admit, I have.
But Theodore Roosevelt nailed it when decades ago he said:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Those who are sharing their gifts, bringing their dreams to life, and making a difference are the ones out there doing it no matter how imperfectly.
They course correct and improve as they go.
They don’t withhold their gifts and ideas out of fear. (And make no mistake, procrastination is a product of fear – the fear of being judged.)
Those that amplify their impact adopt the mantra of…
“Really good is good enough and done is better than perfect.”
It’s these mantras that have allowed me to move forward in my life in a much bigger way.
There are SO MANY things I wouldn’t have done if I’d not moved into “recovery” with my perfectionist tendencies – including putting myself in the position where I’d have the opportunity to be having this conversation with you today.
So, the next time you catch your mind wandering down the path of am-I-good-enough thinking, hold faith that the answer is always a resounding ‘YES!’.
Step into the arena. Get over yourself, kick fear in the pants and get on with what it was you were put on this earth to do.
Lanette Pottle, founder of The Curiosity Library, is a success innovator + coach empowering curious-minded women to create success on their own terms so they can stress less, achieve more, and take time to savor life’s juicy goodness. She’s a facilitator of breakthroughs who believes in infinite possibilities . Lanette is well known for her go-give spirit, positive attitude and enthusiastic personality. Her superpowers include connecting people and inspiring others to take action. Lanette walks her talk and lives her version of the good life in small town Maine. You can learn more about her and her work HERE.
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